A Step-By-Step Downsizing Plan for Your Aging Loved One

We can accumulate a plethora of items during our lifetime. Some items that we own can have sentimental value or have specific memories linked with them. Seeing an old family heirloom could bring back a sweet family memory as soon as you spot it. While on the other hand, some items we inherit can just accumulate clutter and dust. Regardless of the item, downsizing is a necessary and common practice to take on with an aging loved one. Whether your loved one is moving to a smaller space or just wanting to get a headstart on the process, we’ve created a step-by-step downsizing plan for you and your family.

Coming alongside your loved one while downsizing is a task that can feel daunting and overwhelming, but we’re here to help! Downsizing can also be something that we keep putting off but we know in the back of our mind we need to take steps towards it. When something like this feels overwhelming it’s helpful to break it up into parts so it feels more manageable.

Step 1: Discuss a possible move with your loved one

It’s vital that everyone is on the same page and that there is open communication between both parties. We also recognize that moving may not be the best option currently for your loved one and if not that, that’s okay. It’s imperative to be attentive to their physical and emotional needs during this difficult time. Remember to have patience, perseverance, and be mindful of their feelings, fears, and anxieties.

Step 2: Set a tentative move date

It is also helpful to set a tentative date or time window for downsizing and decluttering, estate sales or auctions, moving day, and unpacking.

Step 3: Evaluate the new space

There are several options of housing based on the care that is needed for your loved one, budget, and proximity to family. Many retirement communities and assisted living facilities offer personalized options that fit your loved one’s needs.

Step 4: Declutter and Downsize your loved one’s belongings

From a long and full life your loved one has surely accumulated an endless array of items, some cherished and some practical. These aren’t just objects to your loved one but a representation of their life and special memories. It’s vital to be sensitive and aware of items that they wish to keep. Being mindful of what they are experiencing and placing yourself in their shoes is a helpful mindset to have during this process.

Some useful questions to ask during the decluttering and downsizing process to evaluate specific items are: Do you need it or want it? Do you use this often? Does this have sentimental value? Do you have something similar to this?

Another helpful tip is categorizing and sorting room by room. If it feels overwhelming, try grouping items that are similar together and then move on to the next item. Next you can categorize each item and decide what you will give to family or friends, store away, donate, sell, or auction.

If getting rid of items seems too difficult for your loved one, that's when it could be helpful to reach out to someone like us, a company who is mindful towards your loved one but has an outside perspective and can efficiently come alongside you and your loved ones.

Step 5: Make the move

Bring in your loved ones most cherished items first, this will make them feel more comfortable and at home. Focus on the positives in their situation, reminding them that this is an exciting new chapter rather than an end of a chapter.

Step 6: Be supportive

Your loved one could take several weeks to adjust to their new environment so being supportive and encouraging is beyond important. Try to visit and call as much as possible to help them transition to their new normal.

Downsizing for your family can be a difficult task but it’s such an important and life changing decision that can drastically improve their quality of life. If the conversation is hard, remember to keep persevering and ultimately do what is best for your loved one and their quality of life. While downsizing and decluttering, it is imperative that you take breaks, limit it to only a couple of hours each day, and if your loved one wants to reminisce and reflect, go ahead and join them. Downsizing can also be a sweet time of going down memory lane and talking about fond memories.